Authentic

Merriam-Webster definition: Not false or imitation: REAL, ACTUAL. True to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.

I’ve been struggling to put words on paper recently—my own words. With so many programs created to “assist” a person with their grammar, or AI available to write your thoughts, answer your questions, do your research for you, or create anything you ask it to create—you would think all of these “assists” would make a writer feel relieved. But instead, I feel grieved. And convicted to a deeper level of authenticity. I agree with myself that I should strive not for perfection but for authenticity. 

I believe that God has given each person gifts and talents. I believe this because it is written in His Word. How do I find it in His Word without using Google or asking AI? I open my Bible and go to the back where the Master Index or Concordance is located, and from there, go to a word that I may want to study in various scriptures—find the word in alphabetical order, and then study the scriptures associated with that specific word or thought. The process takes time, requires delving into the scriptures, and can often lead to rabbit trails when reading one scripture, which may cause you to want to understand another subject. 

However, it’s in the PROCESS of studying the Word of God that we not only learn God’s truths and character but also learn from Him the truth of our own existence and how to live lives that mirror the character qualities of Christ. He tells us how to live in an evil world (Romans 12:2, Col. 2:20-22), how we are new creations in Christ, Christ’s ambassadors (II Cor. 5:17 & 20), how we have been given the spirit of wisdom and revelation SO THAT WE MAY KNOW HIM BETTER, the incomparable great power he has given those who believe (Eph. 1:17-19), how to live a life worthy of the calling we have received (Eph 4:1), how to do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than ourselves (Phil. 2:3), to preach the Word and be prepared in season and out of season; to correct, rebuke and encourage with great patience and careful instruction (II Tim. 4:2)….and dozens upon dozens of other Words from God pertaining to life, death and godliness.

I found all of the above scriptures by looking up a single word in the back of one of my Dad’s worn and tattered Bibles, which I found in the back of the closet in his office on my last visit home after his death. The back of the Bible contains so many other studies, including character studies, various Bible readings, illustrated studies such as “Journeys of Abraham” or “Life of David,” and so on. 

Every word and story in the Bible is authentic, not false or imitation: REAL, ACTUAL.

In a world that is no longer a “what you see is what you get” world—I crave authenticity, don’t you? I love the feel and the smell of a tattered Bible—the joy of “finding” each book of the Bible. I find my desire to become more authentic within the pages and stories of those who have gone before me. In the journeys, lives, prophecies, history of the Early Church, and last days of Jesus—I discover the true purpose of my own existence. While digging out the gold of the Word, I am learning the gifts I have been given and how to stay “true to my personality, spirit, and character”—living an authentic life of service to my Creator and the most faithful lover of my soul.

Stay the course…

Sheila

You Know Me

"O Lord, you have searched me and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all of my ways." Psalm 139:1&2

A few days ago, while hiking the trails of a 400-acre forest with my dog, as I do several times a week, I had a freak accident. In a nutshell, at about the halfway point of our hour-long hike, I took a fall while attempting to run past another hiker and his dog. My dog pulled hard and fast to the left while I was running straight, and ultimately, I fell hard, landing on my upper arm. The pain instantly permeated my body, and I knew in a moment that I was in a precarious position.

While the kind hiker helped me remember to breathe and kept me calm, I eventually sat down, leaning against a tree while he went for help. After contacting my husband to tell him where I was in case I blacked out, I was utterly alone on the trail with my dog. I felt vulnerable--in a state of shock, I began to pray. My prayer could have been more eloquent. Instead, it went something like this: "Help me Jesus, help me Jesus, help me Jesus." 

Hiking the trails or hiking anywhere has always been where I feel most like my true self. When surrounded by His glorious creation, I am honest in my conversations with Him. Only moments earlier, I had thanked Him for His goodness to me, recalling all the ways He has blessed me and my family. And now, as I struggled to breathe, feeling like a tiny dot in a large forest, I felt His peace and presence. 

"Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast." Psalm 139-7-10

God is omnipresent—everywhere, in every place and time. To say that God is "present" is to say that he is here with us, really here, not absent. He is the creator of heaven and earth, meaning He is in every location. He is also the creator of time—one without a beginning or an end. He has been present in the world since its creation, and there will never be a time when He is absent. 

We are never lost to God. No matter where we go or what we do, He is present. Although He knows every detail about us, His ultimate desire and greatest gift is that He allows us to know Him, too. 

One of Jesus's last prayers perfectly describes this desire: "Father, the time has come. Glorify your Son, that your Son may glorify you. For you granted him authority over all people that he might give eternal life to all those you have given him. Now this is eternal life: that they may know you the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent. I have brought you glory on earth by completing the work you gave me to do. And now, Father, glorify me in your presence with the glory I had with you before the world began." John 17:1-5

Reflecting on my trail experience, I am humbled and thankful for those whom God brought along the path (literally!) to help. Although I suffered a fractured humerus (upper arm bone), hardships have a way of bringing us closer to His presence. His love hits differently from a broken place when we can see our utter need for more of Him more clearly. 

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139:14

Stay the Course…

Sheila

Today’s Prayer: “Father, thank you for your omnipresence. It’s difficult to understand that time is different in heaven than how we view it on earth—without beginning or end. Father, I pray for those who have not yet accepted your gift of eternal life. Your Word tells us that by grace, we have been saved through faith. We know that faith does not come from ourselves, and it is not by works—it is a gift from You so that no one can boast. Your Word tells us that if we confess with our mouths, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in our hearts that You raised Jesus from the dead, we will be saved. Today, I pray for Your gift of salvation to anyone who cries out to You with this prayer. Our greatest joy on earth is to know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom You sent. Please draw us closer to You as we seek You and learn more about You through the gift of Your Spirit and the power of Your Word. In Jesus name, I pray, amen.”

Every End is a Start

Almost exactly three years ago, my father passed from this life into eternity. 

His departure was natural, beautiful, painful, and mysterious. 

Almost three years ago, I stopped writing for this blog. Instead, I began writing a monthly column for our local newspaper, an idea I proposed when our neighbors and world were still keeping social distance. 

I began to interview local community neighbors for a column called Hello Neighbor. Each month, my focus shifts off of myself and onto a different person or specific topic. I have met and interviewed people who are similar to myself and people who are strikingly different from myself—and in the process, I have learned more about myself than I have wanted to know. For instance, to understand another's story, my mouth needs to remain closed, and my focus must be fully absorbed in the life and heart of another. I don't need to agree or disagree with another's perspective. I have learned to listen to stories that transpire in the mud and muck of life, to storylines that twist and turn, and ultimately to a consistent conclusion that things are not what they appear to be; people are not always what they appear to be. 

Often, the most beautiful unfolding of another's story is what happens to the one telling their story out loud for possibly the first time. Almost always, there are tears, and sometimes, I am caught off guard when such a moment occurs. In telling our stories, we are transported back to a time that feels like it never happened and as if it just happened today. Our stories reveal our journey in such a way that the emotions connected with the journey also revisit us. Emotions connected to sharing stories about our younger selves may bring new revelations in the telling through the eyes of our older selves. 

I know of few things in my life that have been as great of a privilege to participate in than to be an audience to a person I have just met in listening to their story. I can ask questions when my interest is piqued, but mostly, I'm learning to hold my tongue and give undivided attention to a person God has placed in my path for such a moment. 

Although we live in a world that idolizes celebrities, where many focus their energy and attention on social media, being an influencer, or presenting ourselves in a way that makes us feel seen and essential—I realize that often the people who leave the most extraordinary legacy are the ones who are unaware of their influence and impact. The teachers who poured into their students, the artist who turned an old tire shop into a home and a gallery for local artists, high school sweethearts whose love was so deep that several years after an accident left his girlfriend paralyzed from the waist down, he still married her. Today, they celebrate decades of good memories together despite their journey's difficulties. 

In writing another's story, I have learned that life is lovely, beautiful, complex, and challenging regardless of who you are. Careers are meaningful, but family is more important. Traveling the world is fun, but being with the people you love is what you will remember at the end of your life. Photos of who you are in your youth may not resemble photos of who you are when there remains more road behind you than in front of you. We are no less beautiful in our older skin than the younger one, at least not to those who truly know us, especially not our Maker. Significance is not found in what we accomplish but in who we become due to our accomplishments. And most importantly, every end is a start. 

My father's end of life on this earth was a start to a new life in eternity, a story that I do not yet fully understand. As I reflect on his life—how he lived, how he spent his time, and what mattered to him—I can better understand the truth of who I am. In telling another's story, I have learned the beauty of humanity—we are all a messed-up mixture of glory and grime. 

Stay the Course… 

Sheila

How to Run Up a Hill

(I wrote this blog many years ago as an avid runner. It was written to be lighthearted yet true. I dedicate this to my former teacher, editor, coach, running buddy, friend, and mentor, Mr. Russell. His recent death has impacted me in so many ways. His voice and red-ink edit will forever impact every word I put on paper.) 

Some simple things are just plain good to know for those just-in-case moments in life. At those unexpected times, you find yourself in a situation that catches you off guard, and you wish someone, somehow, somewhere along the way, had given you a heads-up. For instance, knowing the best way to run up a hill might be something that one day will prove invaluable. You never know. 

You’re lucky to be reading this article. One day, mid-hill, the advice I’m about to share could be the difference between popping the top (don’t worry, I’ll explain!) or lying down in the ditch and giving up (self-explanatory). 

Whether or not you’re an actual runner, like me, or a person who’s running this race we call life, we are all faced with hills from time to time. Sometimes we see them coming, and other times we turn a corner, and BAM, there they are. It’s hard to say which is better: knowing there’s a hill to climb or being caught off guard. Either way, the hill must be faced. 

Like any good competitor, you don’t want to just run up the hill; you want to conquer it. You don’t want the hill to think you’re afraid of it. Give it only a quick glance. Almost as if to say, “Yep, I see you, but you’re not all that!” However, knowing you’re at the bottom of the hill, now is not the time to get arrogant. 

All the little bumps in life prepare us for the hills we are destined to face. So, don’t dodge the bumps. They’re there for a reason. For those who like to be in control, it’s okay to not look good when you hit the bumps. Don’t worry about it. Keep your eyes on the road before you and know that the bumps won’t take you out of the race-they make us stronger. 

Although you’ve only glanced at the hill, let it quickly burn into your mind so that you can still see its size when you close your eyes. After this, lean into the hill and look no further than the next few steps. Here’s something that might surprise you. Your body will do whatever your mind tells it to do. It’s true. If you say to your feet to keep moving, believing that you want them to keep moving—they will keep moving. If you tell yourself that the hill is too big and you’ll never reach the top, your feet will stop trying. They will believe they are outmatched. 

Don’t start out too aggressively at the bottom of the hill. Lean in and slowly yet consistently, build momentum until you know you’re about two-thirds of the way to the top. Like in life, you will instinctively know when you’re at this point. Your mind may be screaming for you to give up. There may not be anyone beside you to cheer you on. This is when you’re thankful you didn’t dodge the bumps. This is when you decide how to reach the top of your hill. Gasping, panting, barely at a crawl, or popping the top with the grace and energy of a person who feels the strength the hill has produced? Decide for yourself how to ascend the top of the hill. 

So, my fellow racers, I challenge you to dig deep in this race we’re all running. Coast on the downhills, but never give up when facing the hills. Don’t try to stay pretty. Grunt and groan if necessary. An avid hill runner has rosy cheeks, is soaked in sweat, eyes are focused straight ahead, and is grinning from ear to ear at the conquest of each hill. 

Follow this advice, and someday, mid-hill—you’ll thank me. 

Stay the course...

Sheila

Junk Food Junkie

Recently, my husband and I watched a compelling documentary on plant-based eating. Before the documentary, I considered making some changes in our diet, so, being an all-or-nothing girl, I decided to jump in with both feet.

I arrived at the local grocery with a manilla folder containing five plant-based meals, all with a long list of ingredients located in mysterious locations throughout the store, such as fresh ginger (hint: it’s not in the ginger ale aisle!), flaxseed, soy milk, leeks and so on.

Fully committed to bags of foreign ingredients, I decided to start our glorious adventure with veggie burgers. I had pots and pans, a food processor, and a ninja blender all in use as I sauteed leeks and lemon juice and turned walnuts to dust with the ninja, all the while slowly boiling the liquid out of my brown lentils. The smell was horrific, but my attitude was stellar.

Long story short—the burgers were possibly the worst meal I have ever served to my husband in 35 years of marriage. We did our best to eat them, but we agreed to toss the leftovers.  

We enjoyed a Culver’s butter burger, fries, and caramel custard the next day. 

As I licked away the last of my custard from my spoon, I remembered a song from a record my mom had played when I was a kid called Junk Food Junkie (by Larry Groce). He first sang it in 1975. He talks about how he’s known by all of his friends as being healthy, “In the daytime, I’m Mr. Natural, just as healthy as I can be—but at night I’m a junk food junkie, good Lord have mercy on me!” His worst fear is: “I'm afraid someday they’ll find me, all stretched out on my bed—with a handful of Pringles potato chips and a ding-dong by my head.”

If I am honest, I have felt the same fear about myself from time to time. Not concerning food, but involving the church. It is easy to put on the church face, say the right things, and appear to be a spiritual hero. But then, Monday always arrives with its share of unfair circumstances, unexpected tornadoes, and people who don’t understand things the way they should. And suddenly, a thought, a sideways glance, a word that would not be welcome in the church, a judgment that does not exemplify the character of Christ, and a sinking spirit from the realization of the reality of one’s humanity become the truth of who I am. 

I become the me that I’m not proud of, the me who stares at her reflection in the mirror in an attempt to understand who that person truly is at her core. 

I believe that each of us deeply, and often secretly, longs to be true to the person we know God created us to become. Even in the moments—or perhaps, especially when we are aware of our depravity. If we are never willing to look inside, the authenticity that comes only through the lens of truth will never find its way out. And quite honestly, right now, the world needs to see the authenticity of a life striving after the heart of God like never before. And part of that authenticity might be allowing others to see us when we aren’t pretending to have it all figured out. 

Romans 12:2 reminds us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

Maybe praying for God to renew our minds so we can become more like Him might be a good starting point. His Spirit in us gives us hope and changes us from the inside out. We cannot muster enough self-discipline in our strength to emulate the glory of Christ within, but as He renews our minds, we are more clearly able to live each day in His perfect will. Kind of a slow process of becoming a pure, authentic child of God even outside of Sunday morning.

Last night, after four days of recovering from the veggie burger event, I was back at it with vegan vegetable curry chowder. Much to my surprise, and even more so to my husband’s surprise—the meal was delicious.

I don’t have a clue what tonight’s dinner menu holds. It could be cauliflower macaroni, or it could be a frozen pepperoni pizza. 

Good Lord, have mercy on me!

Stay the Course…

Sheila

Zumba

(I wrote this blog 11 years ago, but just stumbled upon it. Our children are all adults now, which makes this blog more special and something that I know all parents can relate to in one way or another. When we are busy raising our family we are not always able to recognize that the small moments are the big moments.) 

Perhaps you can relate to the story I am about to share. 

There are things I told myself many years ago I would never do-- and then I had children. Funny how a child, your flesh and blood, can have interests that test the depth of your love, pushing you to do the very things you told yourself you would never do. 

Enter Zumba. A class at our local fitness center that our family just joined. My sixteen-year-old daughter, Danielle, wanted to try the dance workout; and for whatever reason, invited me. 

So, against my better judgment, I went. 

The description of Zumba was my first red flag, “high energy and motivating music with unique moves and combinations that allow participants to dance away their worries.” Anytime the words “unique” and “dance” are used in the same sentence, I become full of worry. 

My clever idea of standing in the back of the room didn’t work out for me since there were mirrors on every side. I watched my instructor, Rhea, do things with her hips that I didn’t know were possible. My daughter gave me a huge smile each time we had to turn, and she was able to see my “moves.” I was smiling too, but for different reasons. 

The class that my daughter assured me was twenty minutes in length ended precisely an hour after it began. I mumbled something to the instructor on the way out, and she mentioned how well we did for our first time. “How did she know it was our first time?” I wondered to myself with a slight shrug.

Although I had hoped that my daughter would not love the class, she did. I blinked my eyes and a week passed. 

“Tonight’s Zumba night,” Danielle reminded me this morning. 

“Yep!” I tried to sound excited. 

I think Rhea was shocked to see that we were back. So was I. And the class was more than double the size of the prior week. 

However, somewhere in the middle of Zumba hour, something happened to me. I kept looking over at my daughter, watching her enjoy herself as she effortlessly performed all the fancy footwork and hip gyrations. Danielle smiled at me--and I realized that I was having fun. 

At one point, Rhea complimented me because my hips were moving (instead of all the other parts of me that weren’t supposed to be moving!). 

I laughed. 

Who knows, if this keeps up, I may soon be known as the most improved Queen of Zumba. 

Could it be possible that I’m excited for next Tuesday night? 

Stay the Course... 

Sheila

The Gift

Almost 10 years ago a dear friend of mine was about to run her first half marathon. I had run a handful of half marathons myself but was no longer able to run long distances so instead I decided to be her cheerleader that day. I noticed that she was not wearing a hat, so I took the hat off of my own head that I had worn for many races and insisted that she wear the hat to help with sun, wind, rain, etc. 

A lot has happened in both of our lives since that day, yet the bond of friendship remains strong. 

Several months ago, my friend received a cancer diagnosis that brought the life she and her family knew to a screeching halt.

Yesterday, my husband and I visited my friend and her husband for the first time since her world had turned upside down. Coincidentally, as I was looking through my hats for one to wear for our visit, I pulled out the hat that she had worn all those years ago for her half marathon. I put it on my head, but it no longer felt like my hat. 

So I took the hat with us on our visit to give to my friend. 

The woman who greeted me was not the same woman I had remembered. She stood before me with a new strength, radiance, and beauty. Her new identity has painfully and slowly unfolded through a journey into the hot flames of a raging fire. Forged within the fire, she has transformed in every way through a deeper personal encounter with her Maker. She has embraced her Father, Savior, and Friend. And He has held her tight in His loving arms of grace, mercy, and compassion. 

I don’t pretend to understand the depth of what she and her family have experienced. Nor do I pretend to understand the significance, if any, that the gift of the hat might have meant to her. 

I had held onto the hat because, at one time, it had been a big part of my identity. It represented something that I loved for so many different reasons: running. And it represented a place where I had once felt a sense of belonging. A place where you could be both strong and vulnerable and know you are accepted— two qualities inevitably revealed in a race of any duration. 

A little while into our visit, she put the hat on her head. It may have been my imagination, but I am almost sure I saw something shift in her composure. I had seen the same grit in the eyes of my friend the day she ran her first half marathon. Her eyes focused, and her mind was ready for whatever she may face throughout the race. She had never run such a distance and was trusting God for strength and mercy to finish the race. 

Just as when she ran before, God has surrounded her today with others on this marathon we call life—some who are stronger and some who are weaker. Those who encourage her and those whom she can encourage along the path. The body of Christ functioning in her true purpose. 

This morning, I’m a mess as I reflect on the symbolism of the significance of the Gift that God has given to each one of us, should we choose to accept the Gift. 

Just as I can only scarcely explain the significance of the hat which now resides on my friend's head, the importance of the gift of salvation through Christ meets me with no adequate words of description. 

The significance of the Gift of Salvation means eternity to those who accept and believe. 

And this faith, which we can scarcely understand, let alone describe, anchors us deeply in the love of the One who has given us the Gift.

"For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God." Ephesians 2:8 NKJV

Stay the Course… Sheila