A Place to Weep

Every time I read the story of Joseph, which is so well portrayed in the book of Genesis, I am deeply impacted.  As I am pulled into the storyline of a man whose own brothers sold him into slavery and the progression of unfair incidences that continued to present themselves to Joseph, his character and fortitude are unfathomable.

As with any true story, it is impossible to read the story of Joseph’s life and not wonder how you might react if Joseph’s name were to be replaced with your own name.

It would be easy to remove the humanity piece of the story and to view Joseph as a fictional character of sorts; one without feeling or emotion.  However, Joseph’s feelings and emotions are not withheld in the telling of his story.

Imagine what it must have felt like, after many years of being separated from his family, to walk into a room and see 10 of his 11 brothers standing before him.  Joseph “turned away from them and began to weep.”  (Gen 42:24) Later we read, when his brothers returned and brought his youngest brother, Benjamin, with whom he shared the same mother, “Deeply moved at the sight of his brother, Joseph hurried out and looked for a place to weep.  He went into his private room and wept there.” (Gen 43:30)

When Joseph revealed his identity to his brothers, the emotion of his circumstances was more than he could bear.   Joseph sent all his attendants out of the room that he and his brothers were in “And he wept so loudly that the Egyptians heard him and Pharaoh’s household heard about it.” (Gen 45:2)

What Joseph did next is something that has to make each one of us stop and consider; instead of being angry or vengeful, Joseph comforted his brothers and told them not to be angry or distressed.  He reassured them that though they sold him into Egypt, it was God who had sent him ahead of them so that a remnant could be preserved.

Years of separation, being abandoned and despised by his brothers, missing his father and little brother, wondering if they were dead or alive; if anyone had reason to be angry, bitter or seeking revenge it would be Joseph.  

Instead, Joseph invited his brothers and their entire households to move to Egypt so that they could survive the famine in the land; “Then he threw his arms around his brother Benjamin and wept, and Benjamin embraced him weeping. And he kissed all his brothers and wept over them.” (Gen 45:14)

Later, after Joseph’s brothers returned to Egypt with his father, Joseph went to meet with his father for the first time, “As soon as Joseph appeared before him, he threw his arms around his father and wept for a long time.” (Gen 46:29)

In today’s culture, a grown man crying is often misinterpreted as a sign of weakness.  Joseph was anything but a weak man.

As with any story, we are only given bits and pieces, not the day-to-day happenings that lead up to the big events.  I am certain that there were many, many times over the years of experiencing abandonment, imprisonment and loneliness that Joseph sought out a place to weep.  He wasn’t taken aback by his deep emotion at the sight of his brothers.  He didn’t panic as to what to do with his emotions; he knew from years of experience that he needed to “look for a place to weep.” 

It is in the release of emotion, springing from the depth of the heart in the form of weeping that God is given permission to heal the places that might otherwise become calloused and hard.  Instead of pride, we are filled with compassion and love.  Fully surrendered and fully trusting his life to God, knowing that he was not hidden from his Maker, Joseph’s obedience preserved an entire nation.

A situation that was intended for evil was used for good because of Joseph’s response to the event of circumstances of his life.

I pray that we can learn from Joseph as we reflect on our own set of life circumstances.  Let’s not resort to our default response of pride and rebellion.  May we allow our emotions to be real and raw as we instead look for a place to weep where God can heal us and fill us with His goodness.

Just like Joseph, the future of other people may be directly impacted by how we choose to respond to our circumstances.  

There has never been a better time to "find a place to weep," than now.

Stay the Course...

Sheila Cote